Archive | March 2012

You Think You Deserve That Pain, But You Don’t!

You Think You Deserve That Pain, But You Don’t

 

There comes a point in everyone’s life that is experiencing pain, pain that is caused by another person in their life, usually resulting from that person not knowing how to love their self, directly effecting the people with whom they are in relationships with, that a person must be willing to move on.

Many times, many situations and many people cannot be fixed by the ones that love them. A person has to figure out that a lot of problems that they have lie within who they are as a person, and have to make a valiant commitment to fixing their self before they can make any type of commitment to fix a relationship. Think about how hard it is to change you; trying to change someone else is almost an impossible task if a person doesn’t first want to change his or her own heart. Through it all, know that you are special, and that you don’t deserve the pain a person is willing to continuously put you through.

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Sweet Treats & Inspiration: {Why does God allow me to experience difficulties?} by Charles Stanley

Yesterday I read/listened to Charles Stanley give us an encouraging word on Michelle’s blog, SWEET TREATS & INSPIRATION.  I hope she doesn’t mind my borrowing from her to share with my friends on my blog.

{Why does God allow me to experience difficulties?} by Charles Stanley

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Sweet Treats & Inspiration: {Why does God allow me to experience difficulties?} by Charles Stanley.

I pray you will be deeply blessed by this word.

Hugs,

Barb

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International Women’s Day

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March 8 marks the 101st International Women’s Day. The event aims to celebrate the progress of women while pointing out inequalities that still exist.

A supporter of Venezuela’s President Hugo Chavez, Marlene Vanegas, 72, known as “Little Red Riding Hood,” rides on the back of a motorbike holding a homemade signs that reads in Spanish; “Love is paid with love,” during a rally marking International Women’s Day in Caracas, Venezuela on March 8.

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You’ll please excuse my unawareness that this special day honoring women all over the world actually happened two days ago.  These women in the pictures know how to celebrate in some countries, yet in others – it’s hard to be a women.  It caused me to realize how blessed we American women are and how fortunate that we have the kind of power and love as Christians to change the world for women everywhere who are not as fortunate.  We can make every day a women’s day through prayer and sharing those things of our faith that can bring spiritual contentment to those who don’t know what can bring happiness to their lives.  Pass it forward.  They need to be blessed.  Woman praying for women – I like that!  Sounds like a good place to be.  If there isn’t already an organization formed around that name….someone should organize it.  Any volunteers?  Well, it’s a nice thought anyway…..

Hugs to all until the next time,
Barb

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LESLIE RADDATZ INTERVIEW – DAY FIVE


LESLIE RADDATZ INTERVIEW 

FLASHBACKS IN 

POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER

FRIDAY – DAY FIVE

FINAL INTERVIEW

LESLIE AND HER DAD
ON HER
WEDDING DAY

Well Leslie, here we are again.  We have covered a lot of PTSD territory in the past few days.  You’ve done a marvelous job of tuning us into some facts and therapies possibly some of us, including me, had never heard of before.  And now, we’re at the end and I hope others reading what you’ve had to say will help you get the word out about your book, Flashbacks in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: Surviving Through The Flood.  And as importantly, to further the word to be of significant aid to victims as you and your dad.

Leslie:  I’m so glad to be here again today, Barb, thank you for mentioning the title of my book. It is my constant prayer that people everywhere will hear about the importance of furthering the studies and research to help victims of damaged mental health due to PSTD.  We need to lift the awareness and compassion of our friends, neighbors and the person on the street, that this could happen to them or anyone living under extreme stress and trauma.

Barb:  Leslie, when we came to the end of our interview yesterday, we were discussing veterans with PTSD.  I asked you if you had included any stories of veterans as well as other victims of this disorder in your book and you replied that your father also has PSTD. 

Leslie:  Yes I wrote about my father for one chapter in my book.. My book is mostly about me because it is a memoir about me but in family background I explain about my dad’s PTSD so readers would have a sense to understand that the parental neglect wasn’t his fault because he was dealing with so much trauma himself.  Also my mother was an alcoholic.

 

LESLIE’S DAD BEFORE VIETNAM

LESLIE’S DAD DURING VIETNAM

Leslie:  My father suffered with PTSD from the Vietnam War.  I wrote about him in one of the chapters in my book and I also wrote an article of my experience while a child of age 3 or 4 witnessing his PTSD symptoms which included pulling knives on my mother and us.  My mother would hide us in closets when he started to scream and try to find the enemy in the house.Go to http://homecomingvets.wordpress.com and click the link The Effects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder on our Soldiers and Their Families by Leslie Raddatz that was published by Bonnie Toews CEO at Whistler House, Whistler, Canada, and Author of The Consummate Traitor and Covert Denial and The Odonata Ring.

I was three or four years old. I remember one day I am about to walk into the kitchen my mom stops me with a panic look on her face as she keeps one eye on my dad as she tells me softly to stay still and not to move.  I feel scared and frozen in place as I see the knife pointed at my mom. She turns her full attention to my dad who is holding a knife with a strange look on his face.  Talking but I can’t understand what he is saying.  I witness my mom slowly and calmly walking up to him while repeating, “It is okay. I am your wife.”  “You are no longer in the war it is okay to let go of the knife.” “You are home with me and the kids.”  She takes the knife out of his hands as he returns to the present and is confused as my mom hugs and kisses him saying, “It is okay honey.  I love you.” As they both cry while   I am still standing there not understanding what happened.”

   LESLIE

Barb:  …….Unbelievable…I’m stunned and speechless.  I..just don’t know what to say, except I’m so sorry for you, for him and your entire family.  My husband was a helicopter pilot in Vietnam twice.  He rarely speaks of his experiences there, he did have some very dangerous close calls.  He doesn’t like anyone walking up behind him and will startle still today if we walk up behind him and especially if we touch him on the shoulder or back.  I’ve learned the hard way not to hug him from behind….LOL…  

Leslie:  Yes….who can realize the true and horrible trauma that war can cause….to the ones at war on both sides, and especially with the innocent children and people who reside in war torn area.

Barb:  My prayers go to everyone concerned…I’ve also seen it from the distaff side of being a military wive at home with the children when the husband is away at war.  Leslie, Your book is certainly important in many and various ways.  We don’t want to give too much away about what is inside the covers, but you have convinced me how vital reading your book will be once it is published.  Can you tell us a bit more about the book without giving away any spoilers?

Leslie: My book Flashbacks in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: Surviving Through the FloodWill help victims and loved ones understand what is happening to their self, mother, dad, brother, sisters, friend etc.  For the Survivors, my book will reinforce the fact that they are not alone.  It will give them a resource to reach out to other survivors when they need support.  Even though we have survived the healing process there are still times we need support when something else surfaces or resurfaces.  They can do that by emailing me at lraddatz1@gmail.com or going to Justice For All Revolution’s website www.justiceforallrevolution.com  and chat with one of the Facilitators.

Our disorders never go away.  We just learn coping skills on how we can lessen our reaction to the triggers, memories, body memories as they occur, etc.  There are times that we don’t have any triggers, memories, etc for a long time which is a good sign that our PTSD is in control.  Each day we have to make a choice not to repeat our destructive pattern and if we slip one day we try again the next day not to repeat them.

Barb:  One day at a time, Sweet Jesus.  You’re not talking about a made up fictional story, Leslie…this is real life.  Sounds like you’ve written an exceptional and informative book.  Hearing your father’s and your stories really piques my interest and I can’t wait to read it.  How soon will it be published?

Leslie My book is completely edited by Janell Moon, http://janellmoon.com/, award winning author of nonfiction books.  She has eleven books of her own published.  My next step is to develop a book/marketing proposal to find the right agent that will represent and introduce my book to publishers. I will keep you updated on the status on my book, when the release date will be and where you can buy it. 

Barb:  Leslie, please give us any information that our readers can go to find out more about you and your book.  I know you have shared much information with us, but  this is such an intriguing subject and my empathy goes out to all that suffer from this condition; including one of my own daughters who suffers from PTSD.  You have made a place where others can go and receive the truth in information and help on how to support someone close to you.  It is a devastating disease and I pray that one day it will be erased.  That gives us more reason to pray and strive for world peace and personal.  Thank you for being with us this week, Leslie. You have given us food for thought for sure. I know also that you have been guided by the hand of God through all of this life shattering process.  I am thankful.  Please keep us informed as to the status of your father, yourself and the book as it proceeds toward publication.

Leslie:  It was my pleasure to be here and thank you for having me and spending the time to learn about my disorders to help educate others.  For more information about my story, warning signs, treatments and resources available, please go to my website www.silencednolonger.com

I also have a blog that I share my experiences and coping skills.  I hope to have reached those needing help, Barb, through your helping hand also.  I welcome any questions on my blog, my webpage and at my email address.  I’m sure if you would ask Barb to send me your questions that she would be willing to do that.  I would love to hear from you and pray for your needs.

Barb:  Well, Leslie…I think we both deserve to take one great big satisfied sigh.  This has been challenging for both of us, and I’m very grateful to you for requesting me to help you with the publication of the word about your purpose.  With God’s help and many prayers….there will one day be more effective help for all PSTD mental health sufferers.  Let’s put a “so be it” and amen to that.  Wonderful to have you here.  You are blessed.

Well, friends, I think that about said it.  I hope all of you who dropped by have been blessed by Leslie and her story.  I definitely have.  Please be watching for news of this wonderful book’s publishing date…I’ll be sure to let you know.  Take care and have a weekend full of love, fun and joy.

Grace & Peace,

Barb

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Leslie’s Blog:  www.silencednolonger.blogspot.com

Leslie’s email:  lraddatz1@gmail.com

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Twitter: http://twitter.com/ log in and search me at @lraddatz1

(http://www.latalkradio.com/Max.php) (Leslie’s radio interview)

The Effects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder on our Soldiers and Their Families by Leslie Raddatz that was published by Bonnie Toews CEO at Whistler House, Whistler, Canada, and Author of The Consummate Traitor and Covert Denial and The Odonata Ring.

*Responses from States/Countries:  

POSTED TO LESLIE’S WEBSITE:  www.silencednolonger.com     USA– Wisconsin, Oklahoma, Rhode Island, Florida, Oregon, Massachusetts, Missouri, Michigan, Illinois, North Carolina, South Carolina, Connecticut, Kentucky, Pennsylvania, Georgia, Maryland, Texas, California, Colorado, Idaho, Virginia, Tennessee, New York, Ohio, Arkansas, Washington, Maine, Arizona, New Jersey, Utah, Montana, Nevada, Minnesota, Alabama, North Dakota and Iowa, Mexico. Canada, Brazil, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines, Europe -Iceland, Russia, UK, Australia- Australia, Asia-Iran, India, Philippines, Hong Kong, Pakistan, United Arab Emirates, Turkey, Africa– Kenya, Nigeria

POSTED TO LESLIE’S BLOG:  www.silencednolonger.blogspot.com United States, Russia, Canada, Germany, United Kingdom, Austria, Malaysia, France, Italy, Ukraine, Brazil, Romania, Ireland, Japan, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines, Pakistan, Jamaica, Netherlands, China, Spain, Uganda, Mexico, Czech Republic, United Arab Emirates, India, Kenya, and Latvia, Oman, Nigeria, Thailand, Georgia, Australia, Poland, Indonesia, Columbia, Switzerland, Portugal, Sweden, Philippines, South Africa, Saudi Arabia,Venezuela and South Korea.

These are the languages of people visiting my website for information:

English (United States)

362

91.2%

2

English (United Kingdom)

8

2.0%

3

English (Canada)

8

2.0%

4

Russian (Russian Federation)

7

1.8%

5

German

4

1.0%

6

English

4

1.0%

7

German (Germany)

1

0.3%

8

Turkish (Turkey)

1

0.3%

9

English (Australia)

1

0.3%

10

Portuguese (Brazil)

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Paula R. Shild PhD of a Boulder, Colorado Therapy Group

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founded by Dr Francine Shapiro in 1990.

A passage from the book: Flashbacks in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: Surviving Through The Flood by Leslie Raddatz:

COMMENTS:


    1. Diana FlowersFeb 23, 2012 10:58 AM
    2. I thought I would post a comment later after the series was complete, but I best do it now while I have a few minutes. Thank you Barb, and Leslie for this great, informative interview. I suffered severe childhood abuse as a child and so much of this is hard for me to read; especially that other women had to suffer as I did. I thought for so many years that I was the only one. I never even told my husband until we had been married for 15 years. It wasn’t something that was talked about at all back then.

      I did go to therapy a little, but it didn’t help (although I’m glad, Leslie, that you were able to find someone who knew how to help you), but I am happy to say that I found deliverance in my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. It’s not an overnight process, but day be day He is working to deliver me. Thanks be to God who always causes us to triumph in Christ! 2 Corinthians 2:14

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    3. Dear Diana,

      Your letter brought tears to my eyes and sorrow in my heart for your childhood. I commend you for revealing your deepest secrets. Most of all, how happy I am for you that Jesus came into your life and is working day by day to heal and deliver you from the torment.

      This series must bring back bad memories, and I thank you for reading them. They are meant to encourage healing for victims of this surly angry disease that has affected many, some not even realizing it. Just to get the words out that there that Jesus is at every door knocking to come in and hold you in his arms, to take away the pain and stay with you for life and life hereafter.

      Thank you for commenting and the encouragement you offered. Do you mind if I publish your comment on my blog? Your words have really touched my heart and I’m sure they would touch others. You are my sweet sister in Christ and I so enjoy our friendship.

      Grace & Peace,

      Barb

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    4. Thank you for your sweet response and compassion! I surely treasure our friendship as well, and covet your prayers.

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    5. PSTD, a term that I next to nothing about, but this blog post gives some good and helpful information about this subject. Thanks for giving us this insight. I hope everybody has a good and blessed weekend.

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    6. Thank you, Cecelia – such a nice boost to know you think this subject is important and helpful. Your input is appreciated and welcome.

      Blessings,

      Barb

    I thought I would post a comment later after the series was complete, but I best do it now while I have a few minutes. Thank you Barb, and Leslie for this great, informative interview. I suffered severe childhood abuse as a child and so much of this is hard for me to read; especially that other women had to suffer as I did. I thought for so many years that I was the only one. I never even told my husband until we had been married for 15 years. It wasn’t something that was talked about at all back then.

    I did go to therapy a little, but it didn’t help (although I’m glad, Leslie, that you were able to find someone who knew how to help you), but I am happy to say that I found deliverance in my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. It’s not an overnight process, but day be day He is working to deliver me. Thanks be to God who always causes us to triumph in Christ! 2 Corinthians 2:14

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  1. Dear Diana,

    Your letter brought tears to my eyes and sorrow in my heart for your childhood. I commend you for revealing your deepest secrets. Most of all, how happy I am for you that Jesus came into your life and is working day by day to heal and deliver you from the torment.

    This series must bring back bad memories, and I thank you for reading them. They are meant to encourage healing for victims of this surly angry disease that has affected many, some not even realizing it. Just to get the words out that there that Jesus is at every door knocking to come in and hold you in his arms, to take away the pain and stay with you for life and life hereafter.

    Thank you for commenting and the encouragement you offered. Do you mind if I publish your comment on my blog? Your words have really touched my heart and I’m sure they would touch others. You are my sweet sister in Christ and I so enjoy our friendship.

    Grace & Peace,

    Barb

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  2. Thank you for your sweet response and compassion! I surely treasure our friendship as well, and covet your prayers.

    ReplyDelete

  3. PSTD, a term that I next to nothing about, but this blog post gives some good and helpful information about this subject. Thanks for giving us this insight. I hope everybody has a good and blessed weekend.

    ReplyDelete

  4. Thank you, Cecelia – such a nice boost to know you think this subject is important and helpful. Your input is appreciated and welcome.

    Blessings,

    Barb

 Leslie: It’s really important to talk about PSTD. So many have it and don’t know it. You speak very clearly about it. Thanks, Barbara for bringing her to us. Janell Moon on
 Anonymous

on 2/22/12

I would like to thank all of you for your find words, love and concern for me. I feel so supported and feel my book is really close to getting published I just can feel God’s work in all of this! Leslie Raddatz on

Anonymous

on 2/20/12

JoAnn, you are so sweet to comment. I know your caring so much about Leslie’s situation will be appreciated so much by her. Yes, she is being used by God is a mighty way, and he is taking her from glory to glory. Thank you for commenting and raising other’s spirits. You do a lovely job of that. Hugs, Barb on

on 2/20/12

Barb, thanks so much for alerting me to your blog today. Leslie, it’s difficult to know what to say. As one of my characters says to another in my upcoming book, “No one should have to suffer like that from the people who are supposed to love them most.” I want to wrap you in my arms and give you a huge hug of Christian love. Truly, the Lord is using you in a mighty way for His glory in sharing your story and giving others hope. Thanks from the bottom of my heart for all you do. Blessings always. on

on 2/20/12

It is a pleasure to have Leslie tell here story here. I hope many will read about her and seek her for help if needed. She shows others so afflicted that it can be done. She is a strong woman…a lovely person. Thank you for your wonderful comment and confidence in Leslie. Blessings, Barb

on in response to Barb, I appreciate your interviewing Leslie on this difficult subject. I am happy to read how Leslie has not only survived but ia helping others as well. I look forward to tomorrow’s portion of the interview., by Unknown.

Leslie is indeed a wonderful example to others. Thank you for your encouragement and I hope you’ll “tune in again tomorrow.” Barb on in response to I can identify with Leslie’s situation and am happy to read about the strength she has found to not only survive, but also to help others. Thanks Barb for this interview and I look forward to more!, byjeanne.

on 2/20/12

Barb, I appreciate your interviewing Leslie on this difficult subject. I am happy to read how Leslie has not only survived but ia helping others as well. I look forward to tomorrow’s portion of the interview. on 1 replies.

on 2/20/12

I can identify with Leslie’s situation and am happy to read about the strength she has found to not only survive, but also to help others. Thanks Barb for this interview and I look forward to more! on 1 replies.

on 2/20/12

Hello Linda, it is so nice to see you. Glad you dropped by and happy that you received value from reading the first interview. Please return tomorrow when the second part is published. Blessings, Barb on

on 2/20/12

This was a wonderful interview, Barb and Leslie. I know your book is going to help many people who are suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I’ve heard of this but never really understood it until this interview. My heart goes out to you, Leslie, and all that you have had to endure. May God bless you in finding those who need your help. on

on 2/20/12

Thank you for your reply. I’m excited about this interview with Leslie. Blessings, Barb